Society wants me, wants you, as a new mom to have those motherly instincts that don't exist. Parenting is a learned experience, hence; parenting classes would not be out there if they weren't needed.
I had a brother who, when he and his wife had a new baby, they came to our house when I was a teen. He stood around saying: "Whoa, I can't change diapers or even hold that tiny baby, I'm afraid I'll drop her."
So how stupid are ya? He wasn't afraid he'd drop her, he was wiggling out of having to do a damned thing. He said how it was, or he was, OK when the kids got older, but a newborn, well he just didn't have the 'instincts' the mom has. What a cop out. But I have to wonder how many men try this cop out and get away with it all the time.
There's a recent book, written by a woman who talks about walking out on her marriage and leaving her kids behind. She was on a morning talk show and was crucified by people calling her a bad mom and a few other things. Why is it we hold women, 'mommies' to a much higher standard than 'daddies' because Dear Old Dad walks out all the time and has been doing so for many, many years.
We don't gasp when we know a guy does not have his kids or is raising his kids alone. What's the deal here?
So, like my brother trying to cop out of work, like diapers, getting his lazy ass out of bed at 2AM feeding time, and women, and society allows this to happen because he has no 'parenting genes?' That is so hilarious I can't find words to cover it. Dear Old Dad can learn parenting skills as well as Dear Old Mom can. Maybe we need to buy our boys more dolls to play with as kids so THEY too can have 'parenting instincts.'
Do women have 'instincts' like birds? Maybe baby bird in picture here is waiting for 'Dad' not "mom."
